Fiestas de los Estados vs. Fiestas Ecuatorianas
U.S: Gringos/as están comiendo, bebiendo, y hablando con sus amigos. Tal vez hay bailas. What we consider to be a party consists of drinking games (por ejemplo: Kings, beer pong, up the river down the river etc.) and standing around and talking to your friends/potentials. Sometimes there’s dancing and the music of choice often is hip-hop/pop or Top 40. There’s dancing but it consists of twerking and grinding mostly, and there’s definitely no salsa/meringue unless your friend who is throwing the party happens to be Latino/a.
Ecuador: La vida es para farrear (to party) y chupar (to drink). Ecuatorianos piensan que una fiesta consisten de parejas que están bailando con música de reggaeton, salsa y meringue. Necesitas estar lista para todos los hombres le ofrecen traigos y también es muy difícil para negar. Si tu negas, se le etiquetan como un gringo que no conoce como beber. A real party has lots of dancing and lots of drinking. All the men here have this penchant of getting the themselves drunk, well primarily because they otherwise can’t express that much emotion because they are afraid to be seen as weak (it’s a machista society) and also to work up the nerve to ask women to dance.
The party that I went to last night was hosted by a friend on the program (U.S.) and her host brother (Ecuadorian). Most people remarked that it was a U.S. party and so at one point, we put on reggaeton and finally people besides the students on the program began to dance. It’s a strange environment to be in when your culture clashes with the other, but you have to take cues from the other because as the foreigner you can’t initiate. We’ve also heard so much about how women dancing alone is provocative and isn’t typical and yet there were many women on the program that danced unaccompanied. There were plenty of men on the sidelines, which was surprising that they didn’t muster up the courage to ask other women to dance.